When two people get married, and they have both been attending different churches, it can present a very hectic decision concerning which church both will attend after the marriage ceremony. For some couples, this might be a simple decision, but for others, it is a rather difficult decision to make. Being a Christian does not mean that you have to be a Catholic, Baptist or be a part of any other denomination. Being a Christian means that you are born again and that you have been awakened to what Father God created you for. Either spouse may want to stay at a particular church because that church is where they grew up or where their family always attended worship services. One of the spouses may have a position in their church where they have served for years. If both spouses are Christians, God will always lead them to the right church, if they are follow God’s Word. Whether married or single, where you worship is very important. The main reason to attend any church is because that church resembles the Lord Jesus Christ and you have an opportunity to grow spiritually. Satan, however, has a counterfeit of everything, including the church.
The church you attend should not be built on the pastor’s popularity, church hype, or a huge crowd, but rather, a strong foundation of teaching and preaching from the Word of God. The church you attend should have a consciousness of order, according to 1 Corinthians 14:40: “But all things should be done decently and in order.” The church’s leaders should function according to New Testament principles. A New Testament church is a church which derives its doctrine from the New Testament. Paul said, “…I exhort you, be imitators of me. For this reason I have sent to you Timothy,… my beloved and faithful child in the Lord…he will remind you of my ways which are in Christ, just as I teach everywhere in every church” 1 Corinthians 4:16-17. If a married couple wants to receive the grace or favor of God over their lives and marriage, they must not try to operate on Old Testament principles. “For if you are trying to make yourselves right with God by keeping the law, you have been cut off from Christ! You have fallen away from God’s grace” Galatians 5:4 NLT. You must not allow yourselves to be cut off from Christ. Make sure the church you attend, worships God and not the leaders.
Evangelism should be a priority in the church, reaching the unsaved with the message of Christ. Holiness and living separated unto the Lord should be stressed for members and leaders, alike. You should be able to sense love in the church. Christ said, “By this everyone will know that you are My disciples, if you love one another” John 13:35. If two people sincerely want to grow together in Christ, pray and ask God for direction. God will always lead you according to His will for your life, not yours. His will is what you should always want.
Authored by Pastor Bob Dziadaszek